How to Reprogram Your Body to Thrive After Surviving Abuse
You can do the healing work, the therapy, the books, the breakthroughs, and still wake up inside the same life. The same relationship, wearing a different face. The same perceptions. The same reactions in your body. I know that pattern, and I know this: it does not mean you failed at healing. It means your body is still running the program it learned in childhood.
Survivors of abuse tend to live from the abuse itself. We go back to the part of us that was surviving, the part in fight, flight, or freeze, and we create from there. So even after you've healed, unless you reprogram that deeper program, you will just create the same old thing over again. Healing got you out of the crisis. Reprogramming is how you stop repeating it.
I recorded this teaching as the Season 4 opener of my podcast, because all season we are talking about worthiness: stepping into your worthiness and your value. You can read the heart of it here, and if you want to hear it in my voice, listen to the episode on More Than Sex and Secrets. This is the show where survivors become soul-led leaders, and our hardest truths become our greatest gifts.
The Program Was Written in Childhood
There is a part of us that is human, flesh and bone, that thinks, that survives, that perceives what life is and how life is. But there is a part of you that is deeper: the soul essence of you, which I call Soul Psychology. That is the part of you that creates, the part that is here to work through your physical, mental, and emotional self, and through that etheric field around you that magnetizes what you desire toward your very being.
Here is the problem: that being is programmed. Programmed in childhood. And if the program was written by abuse, then even your soul's tools get used by your survival. The great sages all speak about how we create our reality: how we are not just this flesh and bone, that we are so much more. I call that "so much more" your soul and your essence. The work is getting your body, mind, and emotions reprogrammed so your soul, not your survival, is the one doing the creating.
That reprogramming happens on multiple levels. Let me walk you through them.
The Body Zone: Your Body Keeps the Score, and It Listens
Your body is full of wisdom, and your body does keep the score. We have read the book: the body does keep the score. But more importantly, you can speak to your body. Body talk. You can speak to your organs, you can speak to your blood vessels, you can speak to your hormones. And you can listen to your body, because your body holds messages for you.
I love Louise Hay's book about how different organs hold different memories and have different messages for you. I learned body talk while I was healing, once at 21, when I had cancer, and again years later when my organs said, "Hey, you need to get me out of you," and I found cancer on the upper part of my cervix and endometriosis in my uterus. Your body is not betraying you. It is talking to you. Reprogramming begins with learning to talk back, and to listen.
If your body does not feel like a safe place yet, begin gently. Safe Secure Successful (SSS) is a place to start creating a safe space inside your own body, so you can think before you react and feel before you put your words together.
Move the Body Back Into Health
Your body also reprograms through movement. Some things I love for the physical body are walking, literally walking, moving, fascia release, and dance. All of those move the energetic body and the emotional body, as well as the physical body, back into health.
And what you feed your body feeds your mind. Food and nutrients really work with the mind, so when you eat better, you think better and clearer, and a clearer mind is ready to be reprogrammed.
Reprogramming the Mind
Think about the thoughts you are just so sick of seeing. The beliefs you are so sick of believing. I know not everybody in the world experiences what you experienced. You can shift. That is where subconscious reprogramming comes in, and tools like EFT and hypnosis, to help you bust through those inner child and inner trauma places and reprogram what is running underneath.
There are so many subliminals on YouTube. Go find a subliminal reprogramming tape from somebody, I have some at Your Own University, and begin reprogramming your mind. What this does is open you up to learning to feel different frequencies.
This is not theory for me. In my group, the YOU Matter community at Your Own University, we spent the latter part of November and December talking about manifesting, and working with vision boards: using your vision board to shift and reprogram your mental state into one you actually love, into a life you actually want to create. Your mind will build the life it is programmed to build. So program it on purpose.
Reprogramming the Emotional Body: Move and Sound
Your emotional body is music. Your emotional body is sound. So to reprogram your emotional body is to move and sound. Use sound, including your breath or nature sounds while you're on a walk, and it helps you feel better. It moves the fascia, moves your emotional body through your body, and elevates you, so you feel better in life.
Put on music that feels better. Listen to high-frequency music, like 528 or above, and allow your body to open up to it. And begin to ask yourself: what if I was happy? What if I was joyous? What if I was in unity? What if I was abundant? What if I was in generosity? What if I was in love?
To release those feelings, and therefore release your body to feel more, is really about reprogramming this entire system, and learning what you don't know that you don't know yet.
I Am Not Settling for a Life of Repeat Healing
I have felt led to not settle for a life that is all about healing, one that just repeats the pains of my parents and pretends all things are FINE. I want to live authentically, and I want you to as well. You are alive to rise, to transform your generational patterns, and to bring more light and love into this world.
If you are ready to start, start with who you are underneath the old program. The free Identity Shift Blueprint is where you name that. And when you are ready to go deeper, to live from your soul instead of your survival, that is the work we do inside the Amazing YOU Method.
You have healed. Now let's reprogram and thrive.
